In my life coaching sessions.. we are told to write on two folders.. one saying.. ‘things I can control’ and ‘things I cannot control.’
We have an issue come up and.. practice sorting the files.. determining which of the two to put it in. Often.. it is the ‘things we cannot control’ that give us a pause. A struggle. A .. ‘but what if..’
I would personally rephrase it as things about which my actions can influence and things about which I have no influence. But it may mean the same thing to different people. We may read, and hear, the same things but that doesn’t mean we understand them the same.
Exactly! You are correct. And! The ‘ maybe we can influence this’ is something that is brought up by this sorting. Then it’s up to the sorter to feel into their body if they have the energy to influence.. if they want to influence.. if it’s a person who has shown a willingness to receive. Etc
Excellent! I must admit that I struggle with control. As a nurse, I was trained to do everything I could to ensure the patient received the optimum care -- medications and treatments given on time, frequent evaluation of vital signs, consultations with the physicians, etc. -- control, control, control. Then more of the same as a mother. Letting go of that control has been my goal for a number of years now. Maybe I'll get it right about the time I receive a visit from the Grim Reaper!
In my life coaching sessions.. we are told to write on two folders.. one saying.. ‘things I can control’ and ‘things I cannot control.’
We have an issue come up and.. practice sorting the files.. determining which of the two to put it in. Often.. it is the ‘things we cannot control’ that give us a pause. A struggle. A .. ‘but what if..’
I would personally rephrase it as things about which my actions can influence and things about which I have no influence. But it may mean the same thing to different people. We may read, and hear, the same things but that doesn’t mean we understand them the same.
Thank you so much for your response 🙏
Exactly! You are correct. And! The ‘ maybe we can influence this’ is something that is brought up by this sorting. Then it’s up to the sorter to feel into their body if they have the energy to influence.. if they want to influence.. if it’s a person who has shown a willingness to receive. Etc
Excellent! I must admit that I struggle with control. As a nurse, I was trained to do everything I could to ensure the patient received the optimum care -- medications and treatments given on time, frequent evaluation of vital signs, consultations with the physicians, etc. -- control, control, control. Then more of the same as a mother. Letting go of that control has been my goal for a number of years now. Maybe I'll get it right about the time I receive a visit from the Grim Reaper!